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DUELING DESIRES



In my early Christian experience, I thought it was double-minded if one part of me wanted to do something and another part of me was ambivalent. I was literally beating myself up with God's word and I didn't realize it! I didn't take into account that making decisions isn't always linear. It's more like looking through a prism of choices and ramifications.


As my understanding of scripture and our shared emotional needs grew, I let go of what caused me angst and shame. My understanding grew, even more, when I realized that some of my core needs and desires came from a younger part of me that hadn't been filled. That younger part began to hide those needs as an adult. That inner child or younger part was fearful and was trying to protect me from more disappointment. All this was contributing to the inner conflict.


The adult part learned to function as if there was no need. Until...

Until I got triggered and acted out.

Until I got hurt and withdrew from the people who could love and support me.

Until a new opportunity popped up and I became fearful of failing, I talked myself out.

Until someone tried to get close and I sabotaged it.


I knew the value of healing the inner child. I understood that God operated outside of time. As such God is able to walk back into our past to speak in ways that heal and comfort the wounded part of the soul. I considered the scripture in 1 Corinthians 12 about one body with many parts to be significant in healing damaged emotions too.

1 Corinthians 12:17-22 NIV says "If the whole body were an eye, where would the sense of hearing be? If the whole body were an ear, where would the sense of smell be? But in fact, God has placed the parts in the body, every one of them, just as he wanted them to be. If they were all one part, where would the body be? As it is, there are many parts, but one body. The eye cannot say to the hand, “I don’t need you!” And the head cannot say to the feet, “I don’t need you!” On the contrary, those parts of the body that seem to be weaker are indispensable, and the parts that we think are less honorable we treat with special honor. And the parts that are unpresentable are treated with special modesty, while our presentable parts need no special treatment. But God has put the body together, giving greater honor to the parts that lacked it, so that there should be no division in the body, but that its parts should have equal concern for each other. If one part suffers, every part suffers with it; if one part is honored, every part rejoices with it.


Then, recently I listened to a podcast by Alison Cook Ph.D. She quoted Mark 10:3-16 MSG The people brought children to Jesus, hoping he might touch them. The disciples shooed them off. But Jesus was irate and let them know it:Don’t push these children away. Don’t ever get between them and me. These children are at the very center of life in the kingdom. Mark this: Unless you accept God’s kingdom in the simplicity of a child, you’ll never get in.” Then, gathering the children up in his arms, he laid his hands of blessing on them.

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We don't have to function out of our logical part only. We don't have to function out of our adult selves while denying the attention and care of a younger part that is still in need. In fact, Jesus gives permission to bring those younger or more vulnerable parts to Him for a blessing!!! In this way, we can grow up into Him who is the head.


By acknowledging each part, we minimize internal conflict. This is the wholehearted living! This is one part of the ongoing connection that Jesus offers His little children and adult children. Will it ever be a "once and for all" type of emotional healing? Nope, because as long as we're alive we'll have emotional needs that are withheld, threatened, and stolen. But, the opportunity for us is to come and connect deeply. It's to let Him supply all our needs in relationship with the lover of our souls.


If you think coaching anxiety, unresolved trauma, or learning how to pay attention to your younger parts is the next right step for you, get in touch with me.

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Mega Blessings

Lisa


Lisa Pinney is a certified encounter coach, a coach trainer, and the creator of Cut Cards. A faith-filled therapeutic deck of cards that helps

cut through tough emotions in order to connect deeply with the Father.




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