This is how I feel when I coach others. It’s so cool to simply follow where God is leading. I ask a few coaching questions, then the clients asks the Father a question.
What happens next always blows my mind. Like a good father, God answers in ways that satisfies the emotional desires of the heart!
Recently, I had the privilege to coach a grieving mom. This mom was afraid she‘d lose her precious sons memory if she didn’t count the days, weeks, and months. I asked what else she counted? As she thought about it, she remembered counting after her grandmother died. This grieving mom reverted back to an old coping strategy. It happens.
I asked a few more questions that opened up her heart. Those questions allowed Jesus reach a part of her heart that was in fear. She was able to let go the fear that she‘d forget his memory.
It’s not uncommon for a grieving person to worry about memories fading. What is uncommon is the constant reliving and counting of:
The date of your loved one’s death
When you were notified
Date of the funeral
The number of weeks
The months since a loved ones passing
For this momma counting became a way of comforting herself. The truth is God wants to be our comforter. She knew this logically, but deep down her heart wasn’t as sure. We can all relate to that. Isaiah 49:15 Can a mother forget the baby at her breast and have no compassion on the child she has borne? Though she may forget, I will not forget you.“
God is close to the brokenhearted. I don’t think there’s anyone more brokenhearted than a mom who lost her child tragically.
Through a combination of trauma informed coaching and visual prayer, this woman wept as God enabled her to let go of the fear. How good is our God!
Now, she can grieve without a thorn in her soul.
What comes next for this grieving momma? When she wants to count again, she can get curious about what‘s driving the desire to comfort herself through counting. Once she recognizes it she can run to God for comfort! In doing this she rewires her brain, renews her mind, and dismantles the pattern.
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Lisa Pinney is a certified encounter coach, a coach trainer, and the creator of Cut Cards. A faith-filled therapeutic deck of cards that helps
cut through tough emotions in order to connect deeply with the Father.